I had a best friend once :'(

These past 6 months have caused me to do a lot of thinking after finding out a lot of truths.

I have found out the facts about the situation between me, my boyfriend and my best friend.

I found out that my best friend cheated on her boyfriend with my boyfriend before we became official. Not only that, but she had been using my boyfriend by having him pay for things for her and do her homework assignments, final exams, etc.
My boyfriends is a nice guy, who hasn't really been lucky in the female department - you could say he was kind of desperate, even glad to be getting attention from her, even if he was just being used. (This is why I can kind of see where he is coming from)But, he was honest to me about it, told me everything. She, however, just tried to get me away from him, and even lied to me every step of the way, not knowing that I already knew the truth.

I also found out that when he and I started showing genuine interest in each other, she deliberately tried to sabotage us. She told my boyfriend that I had slept around a lot and that my family wouldn't like him because they are a bunch of racist crooks. She had told me that he was a player, and a nerdy nobody that couldn't be trusted.

Obviously this was upsetting news.

I was willing to overlook the fact that they had a thing before my boyfriend and I liked each other, but the fact that my best friend would say lies about me and treat me like shit over it - I realized that she is a manipulating selfish bitch that only cares about herself.I cant look at my best friend the same way again.


Its like I am seeing her for the first time. Looking back, I can remember all the times she had tried to manipulate me, and I would also remember all the times her manipulating had worked. I loved her so much, she was really special to me - but to do what she did, the way she did it - I can't trust her.

When I go back to UCLA, I am going to exclude her from my life completely. I don't need people in my life who lie, cheat, and are selfish.

But,

I must say, I do sometimes wish that she had done things differently and had not cheated on her boyfriend or said those things about me. At least then we could have still been friends. I miss my best friend sometimes, but I would rather live in reality than in a fantasy.

Old news is bad news

After two months of being in the best relationship I have ever been in I get a freaken text from the ex.

He asked me if there was any chance that we could be friends. Me being the idiot that I am said "maybe". Eventually I told him that it was easier for me to just start ignoring him and thats when I did stupid thing number 2 - I told him "I will always love you, but we were not meant to be." and he took it as - "I love you, lets get back together." SO by telling him we were never gonna happen I gave him hope that something was going to happen 0_0 wtf? A text fight ensued.

But to be honest, I have been a little bothered. I noticed he also has a new person in his life and that bothers me. I will admit, I am jealous of this new girl - irritated by the fact that she is being treated the way I had always wanted to be treated.

I was told by my ex that I was fat, and so he was too embarrassed to take me with him to hang out with friends. So what did I do? I stayed with the bastard, started working out like crazy and lost 50 pounds. But that still wasn't enough for him.

I wanted to spend time together, go places, would of liked small surprises like flowers for finishing finals, or a small present here or there. But what did I get from the entire relationship? Commentary on how I just wasn't good enough for him. I invested time, energy, loads of money into a dead relationship. I finally just gave him an ultimatum - he can be in the relationship with me 100 percent or we end it. He told me he couldn't - so I left.

This new girl is fat(fatter than I was), uglier than me (and I am not just saying that, she really is fugly)and she gets all the fun little gifts. She also gets to go places, hang out with his friends even..

In our text fight he was telling me how even though he was with this girl he was still unhappy - he made a mistake, that I was the one for him, and that he was willing to treat me way better than the way he treats his new girl. YEAH RIGHT!

I have thought about it and decided that my jealousy is irrational. I may have feelings left over but not enough to where I would drop what I have now to go back with that jackass.

My new guy makes me very happy :)
He has done nothing but make my life easier to manage since we started seeing each other.

I am gonna do my best to enjoy my new and improved life with an amazing person :)

Searching for the Truth

There are two sides to every story.

The problem is trying to put the pieces together when people exaggerate the facts or conveniently leave others out.

Its only when you find out who hasn't been upfront about things from the beginning that the pieces begin to fit.

I am finding out a lot of things. Its all swirling in my head. I am at a point in my life where people, things, everything, and everyone I thought I knew is turning out to be wrong.

wtf happened?

The worst news imagineable :(

This week was starting to be one of the best of my life. I would have never thought that just yesterday it could turn out to be one of the worst.

I had won 2 scholarships, I am in Mountain View with the most wonderful boyfriend I ever had - things were turning out to be really amazing.

Then I got a call from my sister telling me that my dad, who has been battling liver cancer since his diagnosis 6 months ago is in the final month of his life.

When I heard the news, the one thing I really wanted to do was just break down and cry - but I have too many things to take care of.

I am not going to go to school this week while I figure things out.
I think I am going to drop one of or all of my classes this quarter and just move home.

I am gonna spend the week figuring it out. I am just glad that I have someone to help me get through this.

Complications -but so far so good...

So, he and I are officially a couple.

He actually came to visit me this past weekend, which was very fun :)
So far we have managed to talk a lot. As far as I know, we have both been pretty honest and understanding with each other (I can only speak for myself of course) and our relationship is blooming nicely :)

I am really happy. I don't feel as stressed or depressed as I used to, which is a good thing for sure.
My boss and everyone keep asking me why I am so happy and smiling a lot. I guess I never realized how I didn't really smile much before.

This weekend I will be going to Monterey Bay for the first time with him and his mom :0
I like his mom, she is really sweet and talkative (I am usually not much of a talker, so this works out :)

Now for the complication...So I said before that I met him through my best friend. Something that I have found out is that 5 years ago they used to date (it wasn't even official really, it was like an ambiguous relationship). Now, surprisingly that fact doesn't bother me at all. And I pretty much consider it the past. I mean, she is my best friend so I am not going to hold it against her or him - its dumb to.

But to my surprise, my friend is the one who had a problem with us dating. And I thought it was because he did something to her before - but it turns out that its actually because she likes him still, even though she is already in a committed relationship with someone else.

He already made it clear to her that as long as he and I are in a relationship he can't even see her that way anymore. Then she promised me that she would try to accept me dating him.

Since then she hasn't really spoken to me, she rarely replies to my texts, she acts differently now and she is obviously depressed. I am not sure what to do. I love her so much, more than anyone else. I don't want this weird situation to get in the way of our friendship. I am really hoping that she will get over it and accept the situation for what it is.

I really just want my best friend back :(
I am wondering if I should just stop seeing him, but I really don't want to - I finally found something really special.

For now I will just hope that in time it will get better for us. Hopefully it all works out...

A nice surprise - or maybe too good to be true?

As per usual, this blog is about a guy, haha but I have to get my thoughts out of my head and onto something.

So...
There is this guy I recently met through my best friend.

He and I have actually gotten pretty close, really quickly.
Its bizarre but we have similar interest, we think similarly, and we have even completed each others thoughts before.

Its really weird that I have only known him about a week and a half, but its feels much longer. Sometimes when we are talking its like I am talking to myself - myself conscious or something. I stayed up and talked to him for 5 hours straight on two separate occasions without even noticing how fast the time was flying.

I am not sure what to do, we have already shown interest in each other as well, but I am afraid that he is going to somehow get the wrong idea about me or something and leave.

After being with my ex, I am a little unstable. Unstable in the sense that I am insecure about myself. And he seems to be understanding of that. He tells me things about my fears that are true even though I haven't said anything - and he wants to help me be more secure about myself and him.

This guys is really unbelieveable. In a good way I guess..
Maybe he is just wiser because of his age, and his experiences ..(he is a graduate student at UCSD - in electrical engineering..)

If this does go anywhere (and I hope it does) I really don't want to screw it up.
I just have to be careful not to overreact or let the small stuff get to me and just keep going....

Wish me luck!:0

Compromise and my complete 180 :0

I decided to take the compromise and take 6 months at UCSD.

I want to see what I have been missing out on. Having spent more time on the campus I feel like I haven't really missed much, but its an outsiders perspective - so I should still give it a shot. Plus, the 60 non refundable fee is helping me follow through. :P

As for my new years resolution of losing 20 pounds...:) success!
Now I have a new goal to lose 15 more pounds and I will be set for life!!
I am completely health conscious now, I cut out most junk food, I eat healthier alternatives whenever possible, and I exercise 3- 4 times per week.

I got to be more strict on myself to lose the last 15 though, cause its already been 3 months and I haven't been able to get any lower :( I also need to find a gym in SD so that I can up my exercise to 5-6 times per week.

There is a lot to figure out, and I just have to get my head around it....
Hopefully everything goes the way I want it!!

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